Alarm Bells Ringing

I went on a "date" on Saturday night. With a guy I'd been chatting to on-line through an internet dating site.

He sounded normal enough, my age, educated (a teacher), articulate, so I thought "why the hell not, lets give this a go".

We made plans, met, had a few drinks and dinner and he invited me back to his home for coffee. And it was only coffee, not "coffee".

Should the alarm bells have started ringing when he told me he collects teddy bears. I suppose his nic name should have given it away really. 38 years old and the guy collects bears. Okey dokey ... *ding ding*

Should the alarm bells have started ringing when I was introduced to the stuffed toy he's had since he was two years old and sleeps with every night? (Remember, this is a "first" date) *ding ding*

Bells started definitely ringing when I logged into the site on Monday at mid-day and found three messages from him, each getting progressively more (ummm) needy. I'll share them with you below, just because I can, I'm good like that and it makes great foddah ...

NZTeddyBear 7:51 am
Mon 11 Sep:
Hey. I was going to ring you yesterday to thank you very much for Saturday night, but my flatmate in his wisdom erased the message you left with your number. I had a fantastic time, and was hoping you might be interested in getting together again this week for a coffee?? I'll drive this time :)I appreciate you driving on Saturday, and would like to return the favour.Hope you enjoyed a rainy Sunday, and you have a great day today.Bear :)

NZTeddyBear 9:05 am
Mon 11 Sep:
Can you send me your number, or give me a ring this evening..... as I am very interested is seeing you again.I hope I didn't give you the impression I wasn't atracted to you - I am, I just like to maintain a distance (kiwigirl note: after he'd inferred he'd like for me to stay the night) on the first date.... get to know the person first...Hope you are keen to go out again, and get to know one another better as well :)Barry

NZTeddyBear 1:12 pm
Mon 11 Sep:
Hope I haven't offended you???The other suggestion I had - would you like to come over for a great meal some time??? Seafood appitisers aplenty followed by my favorite Thai specialty.Barry

I replied to him that I was having a busy day, and that I would get back to him later in the week re meeting for coffee.

NZTeddyBear 1:56 pm Mon 11 Sep:
That's OK....Hope that your day gets better. Maybe a nice homemade meal - SEAFOOD (I'd even get fresh oysters), might make you feel better)???My treat - and I'd be happy to do it any evening that suits you later this week. Barry

Call me fussy, but I think I've got a live one here .....